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Be Gentle with Yourself

Isn't there an awful lot of problems and worries in peoples' lives today? I am recently realizing that, for the most part, I'm free of worries myself, TG.

Probably because at 14 years of age I decided to join a religious congregation of teaching Brothers. Now, 67 years later, I find myself free from so many worries that can plague other peoples' lives. I have always, as the poem 'Desiderata' (Max Ehrmann, 1927) recommends, been gentle with myself.

"Go placidly amid the noise and haste, and remember what peace there may be in silence.
As far as possible without surrender be on good terms with all persons.
Speak your truth quietly and clearly; and listen to others, even the dull and ignorant; they too have their story.
Avoid loud and aggressive persons, they are vexations to the spirit.
If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain and bitter;
for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.. . . "

http://www.cs.columbia.edu/~gongsu/desiderata_textonly.html

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That's a fine poem and one I know pretty much by heart.

At fourteen I was only just beginning to find my way to where I needed to go! It's so much easier to be gentle with yourself when you are sure of who you are.




Edited at 2013-10-08 14:40 (UTC)
That's very true.
Thank you for reminding me of this. I was about 15 when a spoken word version of this was released set to music and became quite popular in the states. As a result, I had the text up on my wall for some time. This was during the time in my life when I was first learning to meditate.
It was a relief when I gave myself permission to eliminate or restrict contact with contentious, drama-filled people. I have some who are family members that I love, but I no longer allow their turmoil to become mine. It would have saved me much grief if I'd learned this earlier in life, but I'm grateful that I finally got there.

Life is much sweeter without unnecessary drama. I'm blessed that I have very little true worry in my life.
I think this is the version that I first heard when I was a teenager back in the 1970s.

http://youtu.be/2yNJaKF9sXA

Believe it or not, they were playing this on the top 40s station that I used to listen to.

Thank you for reminding me of this.
Thank you for putting that my way.
N-Yeah. When I was about 14-15 years old ... in Russia was the USSR. There, instead of religion was the Komsomol and the Communist Party. And now in our lives too many worries. About myself, about family, about how to live. But in all this helps a belief in God (I'm under the Democrats, in the 30 years to Orthodoxy [Russia without Orthodoxy - not Russia]).

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Н-да уж. Когда мне было 14-15 лет... в России был СССР. Там вместо религии был комсомол и КПСС. А нынче в нашей жизни слишком много забот. О себе, о близких, о том как прожить. Но во всем этом помогает вера в Бога (я уже при демократах, в 30 лет принял православие [Россия без православия - не Россия]).