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Next Tuesday is St. Valentine's Day when the world goes all romantic.

It originated, we're told, when a  Christian, Valentine, was imprisoned for performing weddings for soldiers who were forbidden to marry, and for ministering to Christians. Another legend says he healed the daughter of his jailer and signed a letter he wrote to her "Your Valentine" and so became associated with romantic love.

In the Celtic tradition, there is a beautiful understanding of love and friendship called 'Anam Cara'  or 'soul-love'. In everyone's life there is a great need for an 'anam cara', a soul friend. In this love, you are understood as you are without mask or pretension. The superficial and functional lies and half-truths of social acquaintances and network friendships fall away, you can be as you really are. Love allows understanding to dawn, and understanding is precious. Where you are understood, you are at home.

Are you ready to celebrate? When one comes to being romantic -  a bunch of flowers, cheesy cards, red roses, chocolates, music, are often the order of the day. Or do you take it all with a pinch of salt!


We go as far as cards and he's taking me out for a meal up the hill at our local pub which does very good food.

After 25 years I think we can get by pretty well without too much of the other stuff. :o)
because we are both "romantic" we chose Valentines Day to be officially engaged
we had the agreement before lol but i displayed the humble ring on Valentines Day

red roses and candy are not our thing but i always made something special for the day
yellow is my favorite color - one year i left a single yellow rose with the guard at his office building to be delivered to him - with no name as to who left it - he knew of course and we both enjoyed the "mystery it created

my beloved husband is both the romantic and soul friend of my life
because of him i became who i am
it's been 50 years we have been together
I would not have thought of you as the 'romantic' kind. I don't get any of the yellow roses!
we are "romantic" in that after 50 years we both think the other is special and we are glad we found each other
Valentines Day and our wedding anniversary in March are special days for us and we always mark them in ways that are special to us

what was funny about the yellow rose day - and we still remember - was that is was spontaneous - i had never done anything like that - (and never did it again) - he didn't know i was going to do it - because it was yellow (my favorite color) he knew it was from me - because it wasn't red the traditional color the women in his office were even more curious - because i had not left my name he could shrug and say there was no name with it - so, we created a valentines mystery and we thought that was funny

it's the odd things we remember and make the day special
the time early in our marriage we went to a dark and romantic restaurant - after a dinner we don't remember i ordered coffee and there was a roach in my cup

not the red rose and candy kind of romantic
the shared life and memories and laughter romantic

I used to stock greeting cards so I pretty much hate Valentine's Day. I had to put them up the day after Christmas. There were extra calls and extra displays, and my accounts always looked like a cyclone hit. The last thing I wanted to do on Valentine's was go for an overpriced dinner with a long wait. My husband and I do cards and sometime he gets me a small box of chocolates. It's not a big deal.

I remember in grade school we made decorated bags that were taped along the blackboard where people could deposit Valentines, which provoked some anxiety. . By the time my kids were in school, you had to bring one for everyone in the class or none at all.
That was a lovely thought. In my young days we never heard of Valentine. We hardly knew there was a Christmas.
I do enjoy getting and receiving Valentine's Day cards from my hubby. He usually gives me one humerous one and one schmaltzy one. I adore both of them. We met shortly after Valentine's Day many years ago, so it's an unofficial semi-anniversary for us.

- Erulisse (one L)
Enjoy your cards on Tuesday.